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For My Start Conference Friends

If you’re visiting for the first time after meeting me at The START Conference, welcome! I am so glad you are here. Please take a look around, and make yourself at home. Also, be sure to download a free copy of my book, BecomingaLifeChanger. It’s my way of saying thank you for checking out my site. I love having conversations with other dreamers, and I can’t wait to get to know you better.

 

It’s that time of year again. Time to make another trip to a city that is becoming like a second home to me.

Today, I’m off to NASHVILLE!

Earlier this year, we were in town for Start Night. It was the launch of Jon Acuff’s book, Start. We had a blast, and Rick finally got to see what I loved about the city and the awesomeness surrounding Jon’s events.

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It’s hard to believe that it has only been two years since my first Acuff event. So many amazing things have happened since then. I feel like I am a completely different person, and definitely equate much of that to learning to live differently. I thought you might enjoy seeing some pictures of the last few Nashville trips and conferences. Take a look!

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My first picture with Jon (2 years ago)

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The Quitter conference

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Last year’s Quitter Conference

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Our first visit to Puckett’s!

First time hearing Steve Moakler

First time hearing Steve Moakler

I absolutely love Nashville, and feel so thankful that I get to have a few days every year to spend there. I’m especially looking forward to the START Conference and the chance to see so many people from the START Experiment. What an amazing group of people!

Spending time with dreamers and people who want to change the world gets me so excited and fired up. I can’t wait to see what stories and friendships unfold from this weekend.

I also can’t wait to experience Mangia Nashville for the first time. I watched some highlight videos today, and it looks awesome!

If you’re heading to the START Conference, please be sure to catch me and say hi!

 

Cindy Mae Martin on Facing Fear Head On {Podcast Episode #21}

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Cindy Mae Martin joins me on the podcast today. She has a really inspiring story of walking through difficult times of panic attacks and fear, and coming out on the other side.

On this episode, we talk about:

  • How her comfort zone kept shrinking
  • She wasn’t willing to cope with the panic. She was determined to eliminate it
  • Choosing to go out and live life again
  • Putting on your own armour
  • How she’s writing her book on walking her way out of panic and fear
  • Our battlefield is our mind
  • Keep moving forward
  • Don’t let fear paralyze you

 

You can find Cindy Mae on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest.

I’m sure you know someone that could benefit from listening to this episode. Please share it with them.

What impacted you about this episode? I’d love to hear.

I’d also love your honest review on iTunes. You can do that here.

 

Dave Arnold on Starting in the Alleyways {Podcast Episode #20}

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Dave Arnold joins me on the podcast today. Dave is an author and a speaker with a heart for refugees. He helps people answer the questions, “How do I make a lasting impact in this world?”

On this episode, we talk about:

  • What does starting in the alleyways mean?
  • We all want something to tell us we’re alive
  • We need to get out of our comfort zone and take steps
  • Recognizing God in the ordinary
  • God is continually opening doors for us, but we have to be willing to walk through them
  • Watching the bible come alive through helping the poor and broken
  • We get caught in holding patterns, but we can learn to trust in those times
  • His book, Pilgrims of the Alley (Currently only $2.99 on Kindle)

You can find Dave on Twitter, Facebook, or his website.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Share in the comments below!

 

 

Scott Harvey on Inspiring Youth {Podcast Episode #19}

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Scott Harvey joins me on the podcast today. Scott is a Police Sergeant and a motivational speaker. He speaks on personal responsibility and his IAmSomeone campaign. He stresses the fact that the “someone” you have been waiting on to do something about the problem at hand, just might be you!  He believes it is time to quit waiting on “someone” to solve a problem that is in front of us.  Because, IamSomeone…and so are you!

On this episode, we talk about:

  • How he’s helping kids with challenging issues
  • How he’s helping teachers and staff understand bullying better
  • Learning to actually SEE kids
  • Helping others learn to notice people around them
  • Hustling in the 4Club (wow!)
  • I am Someone
  • Solving all the world’s problems while he mows
  • Taking responsibility to help others
  • I might be the someone that they’ve been praying for
  • No longer being okay to wait for someone else to take action
  • Be the someone who takes action
  • God calls us to be fishers of men, but he doesn’t allow us to choose the pond

This episode really encouraged me. I’d love to hear what you thought as well. What impacted you?

You can find Scott here, and also on Twitter. You can see I am Someone merchandise here.

Thank you for listening! I greatly appreciate your honest reviews on iTunes.

 

Your Definition of Responsible Kids

Credit: Creative Commons (Brad_Chaffee)

Credit: Creative Commons (Brad_Chaffee)

 

What is your definition of a responsible kid?

As a parent, this is something I am continually working to understand. I’ve been pretty responsible for most of my life. Would my mom say I was ALWAYS responsible? Definitely not. But, I have typically made pretty decent decisions.

I am continually learning how to teach this to my boys. Both of my boys are different when it comes to their own responsibility. I could never understand how it was possible that my brother and sister and I were so different until I had my boys. We are definitely ALL wired uniquely. It’s why I love to learn from other parents how they handle certain situations. It helps me grow as a parent, and I am thankful to have friends who have been on the parenting journey ahead of me and are willing to offer advice.

Last night, I posted a question on Facebook. My oldest is in 5th grade, and we are really working with him to take more responsibility when it comes to his homework and other areas. We are not the parents who sit down and do the homework for him. We never have been. But, we do spend a significant amount of time helping him in certain subjects. Last night, I wondered what other parents do in this area. And I’ll be honest, the answers fascinated me. Here’s what I asked:

Parents of 5th graders and up: when did you stop helping your kid with homework and putting the full responsibility on them to get it done? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Here are a few of the answers:

V: I think it depends on the kid and their maturity/responsibility level. J has always been mature beyond his years and I’ve never had to ride him, ever. J2, on the other hand, is in 5th this year and although he knows he has to do it I still have to “micromanage” to make sure it truly gets done. Hope I’m not still doing this with him in high school! Lol! Best of luck!

L: Except for the occasional issue, it needs to happen before middle school because the teachers will no longer inform the parents on a daily basis.  If the child hasn’t internalized the homework discipline yet, it sets the relationship up  for question/lies.  Natural consequences need to be happening so the parent isn’t more emotionally invested than the child in his/her success.  Also, the point at which current education outruns parental knowledge gets earlier every year.  I just found with mine, that the more I was willing to remind/nag, the more it became my investment.  It wasn’t a good preparation for success in the outside world where no one would be more invested in their success than them.  You have to ease them into natural consequences vs. punishment (see Parenting with Love and Logic by Cline and Fay) and they’re sure to test the lines.  I speak from painful experience, not arrogant success

H: Depends on the children.  My 5th grader does everything independently.  If he needs help, he asks.  He has never gotten a B.  He does occasionally need a reading reminder.  My 6th grader needs supervision.  Everyday when she comes home, we write out a to-do list.  She needs constant redirection (although I must say everyday is getting better).  Now if she actually turns in the work on time is another story.

K: Second grade was the point when it fell on ours to do it and turn it in. He had to feel the pressure a couple times when he forgot, but it’s all about learning responsibility. It probably depends on the kid and the school, though…does he need more assistance than others? Are there natural, built-in, felt consequences if he doesn’t do it? Is the teacher using it only to reinforce what has been done in class, or is it new material?  Lots to consider…

J: I’m not a parent but I heard a parent/teacher talk about her daughter’s middle school teacher who encouraged parents to let their kids struggle and not remind or nag them about ( possibly fail) a big assignment because those middle school grades aren’t what matter in the grand scheme…H.S. grades do, but the lessons learned about responsibility in middle school are far better than an A  earned due to parent help. (loved this thought!)

A: Start now…with prompting and practice. Train while price tags are small.

M: You can’t simply dismiss 7 hours of their day with “figure it out for yourself”, regardless of the topic. Be the good parent we all know you already are. Teach them how to think through problems whether they are academics, or integrity and responsibility related. Reign them in when needed and give them space to hang themselves when needed. Most importantly, do what YOU think is best for them. We were all raised differently and are independent, functioning adults. Cross your fingers and hope they still come to you to ask for help and advice when they are 16, 18, 20, 25, 35, 45…

C: When I answered this question for my daughters, it boiled down to me asking myself  – “How did my parents manage my studies?” Bottom line  – my parents didn’t! They cared, they made every resource available but they didn’t micromanage or helicopter —they held me accountable! So my thoughts? NOW is the time to make them responsible! Even when you know they have work and might not make the choice to do it —Don’t intervene! This is the best time for these little people to spread their wings —OR NOT! What better time to learn life lessons AND consequences while in the safety of their parental nest! The REAL WORLD isn’t as kind!

L: I love this string. It’s very helpful to me. I have a middle schooler with an IEP (Aspergers) and I struggle with helping him / making him responsible & letting him fail. Maybe if I don’t rescue him when he doesn’t turn things in, it will be his investment and not mine, and set him up for success in high school. It’s very different with him. My two teenagers did their own work in middle school & asked if they needed help. However, they were also both in gifted ed & superb students. Every kiddo is different.

These comments help me see how other parents work through similar challenges, and it always helps me grow.

I’d love to hear what your thoughts are on this subject. Leave a comment below.

P.S. Thanks to all my Facebook responders! I appreciate it.

 

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