Tammy Helfrich

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It’s going to be messy

Courage always gets you dirty. You have to be in the middle of the action to create action. ~ Dave Ramsey

Many of us prefer to be clean. We like manicured lawns, and tidy homes. We don’t like messes, and we don’t like to be dirty. Clean, polished, and put together. That’s what so many people prefer. Even if it’s only on the surface. Even if it’s only a façade.

I’ll be honest. That’s what I have wanted for a long time in many areas of my life, too. But do you know what I am learning?

Life is messy!

If you are honest, you have likely realized that perfection is a myth. Yes, we strive for it sometimes. But, honestly, it doesn’t exist.

I believe many of us are afraid of being messy. It’s hard work. It’s often difficult to take time to get to know someone and learn about their mess. Heck, it’s hard to deal with our own messes! Sometimes that mess is in our heads. Other times, it is very real. It could be our marriage, an addiction, family relationships or a past we can’t let go of.

Why do we shy away from getting dirty and actually doing the work?

Because it’s hard work.

It’s much easier to pretend that everything is okay.

To live in the safe world of denial.

When we fail to see our own messes, we are blinded to the hurt in others. Have you ever thought about that? How can we possibly help others through their messes when we do not admit or deal with our own mess?

But courage is something different. Courage says, “let’s get dirty.” Let’s start something. Let’s create some action!

Where have you had the courage to get messy? Share in the comments.


Now it’s your turn!

I shared my big announcement this week.

Now, it’s your turn to share the exciting things you are working on! I absolutely love hearing about what other people are doing, and enjoy being able to celebrate and encourage them. I read this verse today that really hit me.

I pray that God, the source of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace because you trust in him.  Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit. ~ Romans 15:13


I know that living differently and following our dreams can be frustrating. It can be scary. It can feel overwhelming. I’ve been dealing with some of those emotions this week as well. But I want to encourage you to keep moving. Keep taking one step forward.

So, let’s hear what you are celebrating, or what you are excited about. I want to help encourage and support you!

A Big Announcement!

I am so excited to share some big news with you today! Check out this super short video for the details.



I have had some amazing interviews so far, and I am really looking forward to sharing them with you. I also have some great ones lined up soon! The podcast is titled Right Where You Are, and it is an extension of my book, Becoming a LifeChanger.

I am really looking forward to diving deeper into what living as a LifeChanger looks like. I will talk about the challenges, the struggles, the inspiring stories, and the amazing people that are living examples of moving away from ordinary.

I’d also love to hear from you. Who would you like me to interview? Who has an inspiring story that you want us to hear? Share in the comments below.

Starting this podcast has been a huge step outside of my comfort zone. It is exciting and scary all at the same time.

Are you currently stepping out of your comfort zone? I’d love to hear all about it, and encourage you on the journey.




Needing to hear something over and over and over

I am learning that we often need to hear something multiple times from multiple sources before it sinks in, or we finally take action. Have you ever had that happen? You keep hearing a consistent message in different ways from a variety of people? Now that I pay attention to it, I realize how often this happens for me.

Photo credit: Creative Commons (passitonfromthemill)

Photo credit: Creative Commons (passitonfromthemill)

I have been having conversations with many different people lately about the idea of not knowing the entire plan before taking a step of faith. It’s a message that I have blogged about before, and most likely have had a conversation about this with many of you.

I’m typically a planner. I love to know the entire process. I crave to know the outcome and that everything will be okay. It’s something I’ve really struggled with since learning to live differently and allowing God to steer this ship, as well as learning to dream again. Yet, I continually hear the same message.

STOP trying to figure out the whole plan! TRUST ME!

I just finished a book called Interrupted by Jen Hatmaker. The concept of the book is not new to me. It’s something I’ve been learning about on my journey over the last five years. The book tells the story of their normal life being interrupted by God. Their world view was flipped upside down, even though they had been Christians their entire lives, and even worked in Christian ministry. At times, I felt like she was reading from my journal! I’ve read her blog before, but I really love her honest, funny writing style. She is real and authentic and doesn’t write fluff.

When I read her thoughts on taking steps in faith, her words really hit me. There is something really powerful about hearing someone’s personal story, and how they walked through this process.

Here are a few passages that were once again words that I continue to need to hear over and over and over…..

“I discovered the journey was not only about something new but was also about being willing to go, even before we knew where we were going.”

“Had we possessed a clear vision, we would have defiled with defensiveness something God intended to be pure.”

“We can wreck the spirit of a mission by prematurely focusing on the strategy. When the “how” eclipses the “why” too soon, we create a potential shift to defend and execute rather than listen and receive.”

“God was unwilling to let us spoil this splendid undertaking, so He didn’t explain it until we could safely receive it without ruining it.”

“My instincts told me to bail, but this was the most crucial moment to stay the course. I was learning how to release, to not defend myself, to not act as my own protector.”

These words encouraged me. Again, I know that I am not alone in this process. God continues to reassure me and help me know that it is okay not to know the plan, even if I naturally want to push against it. I’m learning to take one step at a time. One foot in front of the other. Some day, I may look back and understand how all of these steps led to a much bigger picture. But, for now, I’m enjoying the process of learning to release and embrace this journey as a teacher.

Have you had a message that you needed to hear over and over?



Five Minute Friday: Fall

I’m joining in with Lisa Jo Baker’s Five Minute Friday today. You can see the details, and join in here.

Today’s prompt is fall.


That’s what boys do. From the moment they begin to explore on their own, they fall. I remember so many times of trying to catch them from falling. Doing everything I could to keep them safe. That’s what we want to do as parents.

Photo credit: Creative Commons (zazie_)

Photo credit: Creative Commons (zazie_)

This week, my nine year old had a very hard fall. On his face. I wasn’t with him when it happened, but as I have pieced together what took place, I cannot imagine the pain that he felt when it happened. This one was the most serious so far. And it was stressful before we knew that he was okay.

This experience reminded me that when we fall, we get back up. We don’t stay down. We keep fighting. It may be painful, but we push through and keep moving forward.

It reminded me that when you ask God to give you strength and peace during a stressful situation, He will. I am forever grateful for that.

And, it reminded me of the power of friends and community. When we are hurting and other people surround us with prayer and encouraging texts and calls, it is powerful.

This week’s fall was rough in our household, but we are thankful for new days and healing after the fall.




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