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Start

I am honored to be a part of Jon Acuff’s launch team for his new book, Start. Preorders start tomorrow, and Jon is offering some really cool incentives when you preorder.

Here’s a sneak peak at the cover. How awesome is this?

jonacuffIf you’ve read my blog for a while, you know how much of an impact Jon has had on me over the last few years. I am excited to help him promote his new book and help people START realizing that they can change their life. I had the opportunity to read the first chapter yesterday, and it’s really good, as I would have expected.

We’re also heading to Nashville to attend Jon’s Start Night tomorrow night. If you follow me on Twitter, I’ll be trying to tweet some great nuggets if I am able. I’m also excited to see some of my fellow Quitter friends as well as meet new friends from the launch team.

I’d love to hear what you are working on to Start. Where do you need to punch fear in the face? How are you working towards doing work that matters? How are you moving towards AWESOME???

Stop Chasing

“Don’t chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people – the ones who really belong in your life – will come to you. And stay.” ~ Will Smith

Are you chasing something?

Someone?

Have you ever thought about why you are chasing it?

Is it because someone told you to? Is it what has been expected of you?

Photo credit: Creative Commons (Juan Calderon)

Photo credit: Creative Commons (Juan Calderon)

This theme keeps coming to me in different forms lately. I know I used to chase people. I used to chase success, too. If I’m completely honest, I still do. But it’s different now.

I want to make a difference. It’s changed WHY I do things. For example, I am in sales. My job is very performance driven. In the past, I chased success in order to be able to say I achieved my goals and to make a certain amount of money. These things aren’t necessarily bad. These are good things to strive for.

But, now my view has changed. I still strive to exceed my goals. The future of my job depends on it. And I still strive to hit a certain amount of money each year. But my why is different. It’s not to be able to say anything. It’s to help us pay off debt, and to be able to give more, and to help fund our dreams. It’s amazing how your outlook changes when your focus changes. Tweet that!

I am working to do what I love. I know success follows when you are doing what you love and doing something that matters.

As far as people go, I am very fortunate to have a strong community around me. People who are dreamers and want to make a difference in the world. I know many people don’t have that. When I started dreaming and making changes, I expected everyone to understand. People (friends and family) who were close to me. They’d be happy, right? They’d encourage me and help me dream, right?

I was surprised to find was how many people actually wouldn’t. They didn’t care. Or encourage. In fact, some wouldn’t even try to understand. And that’s okay. It really is. I don’t expect everyone to understand.

Some of my best supporters and encouragers have come from people I never expected. People I initially didn’t know very well. People who wanted something different too.

Are you chasing people to get them to follow you? If so, stop!

Do what you love. Keep working at it. Keep pushing forward.

Is it time to stop chasing something? Share in the comments below.

 

Look around

When was the last time you noticed something new?

When did you really see the person in line next to you?

When did you stop to help the homeless person on the street?

When did you see the hurt in your neighbor’s eyes?

We are busy. We rush around from here to there. Checking off our to-do lists. Going to work. Taking care of our families.

Photo credit: Creative Commons (timlewisnm)

Photo credit: Creative Commons (timlewisnm)

Did you see?

Did you see your child looking to see if you’re paying attention?

Did you see the person who just needed someone to listen?

Did you see the person that needs hope today?

How can you choose to see something differently today?

 

 

Win a copy of The Energy Bus by Jon Gordon

I just finished reading The Energy Bus by Jon Gordon. I won a copy from Chris Locurto’s blog, and I really enjoyed it. It is a simple story about a man who is just coasting through life, feeling like he has no purpose. His marriage is falling apart and he is in jeopardy of losing his job. He can’t understand why the team he is leading is not following him or working together.

Like many of us, he needed a wake up call. He needed someone to remind him that there is more to life than just being ordinary and grumpy.

512+ZEYdHZL__AA300_One of my favorite quotes from the book continues to stick with me, and is something that I am continually trying to live out.

“Find the bigger purpose in the here and now and your purpose will find you.”

I love to share great books, so I’m giving away a copy of The Energy Bus to one of you. It is a quick read, but packed full of powerful ideas and reminders for how to live with purpose and make an impact where you are.

How do you feel about the bus you are driving? Could you use some inspiration?

Leave a comment below, and I will randomly pick a winner tomorrow.

The Wisdom of Silence

I am excited to introduce you to today’s guest, Chris Morris. He is a CPA by day, a blogger before the sun rises, and a happily married father of 4 all the time. He writes about how faith and real life can collide in the brokenness of life, while still holding on to hope. You can read his blog or follow him on Twitter @sometimeshope.

 

When a friend is in the midst of deep struggle, it is difficult to know how to be a trustworthy encourager. We don’t always have the answers. On occasion, we don’t have any answers, because it just doesn’t make sense.

Sometimes, the best thing we can say to a friend in pain is nothing at all. Just be there with them, share in their pain by being present. We don’t always have to try to fix the pain, or frame the sorrow, or remind them of God. The words we share to console our friends often do nothing but stir up dissatisfaction.

 

Well, you know that God will work this out for good at some point right?

…God still has a wonderful plan for your life.

…Maybe God is trying to get your attention, to root out some sin in your life.

 

Each time we say something like this, our heart is in the right place. We are trying to comfort our friends. We just aren’t doing it well. Instead of comfort, we might end up increasing sorrow, heaping doubt, or even producing anger in the hearts of those we love.

 

Morning of reflection

 

The funny thing is this – we know that is exactly what we are doing. We have all been on the other end of these well-meaning but misguided attempts at comfort. So why do we do this? Because we fear silence, despite what the Proverbs say:

 

In the multitude of words sin is not lacking,

But he who restrains his lips is wise.

— Proverbs 10:19

 

We think that if we say nothing, we have nothing to offer. So often the exact opposite it true. Many times, sitting alongside our friends as they weep amongst the apparent ruins of their lives, commiserating with them, and fiercely giving them a hug is the best thing we can do.

Truly, this is wisdom. We need not run from silence, but instead step into it, and in so doing begin to walk in wisdom. It is this wisdom that will eventually usher in God’s healing and His presence, not our chattering.

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