I’ve had multiple different conversations about marriage lately. It’s something I love to talk about, because my husband and I have had our share of difficult times. People look at us now and say, “You have a great marriage. I wish I had that.” Which is when I promptly tell them that it wasn’t always this way. In fact, for a large part of our marriage, it wasn’t even close to what we have now. And the challenges continue to show up. But how we handle them has changed dramatically.
I’m going to be asking a series of questions on the blog, which started from conversations I keep having with different people. It’s a topic that I’ve written about before, and one that is on my heart lately. I hope you’ll join in on the discussion.
Here’s today’s question:
Who wants to go on a date?
Do you have a regular date night with your spouse?
If not, why not?
What is stopping you?
I’ll be honest. My husband and I have been horrible about this lately. We know it is so important to our marriage, but life tends to get in the way. We’re making efforts to keep it a priority. It isn’t easy with our schedules, but we know how much it helps us when we do it. We went out last night, and it was exactly what we needed. Time to get away and talk and be attentive to each other.
If you want to go on a date, but your spouse hasn’t been showing any effort to do so, try switching up your ideas. Don’t always suggest something you want to do. Surprise them, and offer to do something you know they will love but isn’t your favorite idea of a good time. Spouses typically have a hard time saying no to that.
Keep it simple at first. Go out to dinner. Go to a movie. If this hasn’t been a normal practice for you, then don’t get caught up in trying to make it something magnificent right away. Just break up your routine and get out together without the kids or without another couple.
Now it’s your turn. What’s your favorite date night? We’d love to hear your suggestions.