You’ve heard the claims.
Do ______ and you’ll have the perfect marriage. Your husband will love you. You will be blissfully happy.
Guess what? I don’t believe there is one answer that works for everyone.
I think there are very important ingredients to a successful marriage. For example, I’ve learned that love and respect are critical for our marriage. But, this is not the case for everyone.
Today, my husband and I have been married for 15 years.
Has there been an underlying theme to why we have continued to stay married?
For us, it has been commitment.
But beyond that, we have also learned together. We’ve adjusted. We’ve grown together.
But we have never stopped being committed to each other.
Even when life was very difficult, we weren’t willing to give up. Even when we really wanted to. We fought for our marriage.
Marriage is not all hearts and roses. It is hard work.
So, what is the secret to a successful marriage?
I believe you need to figure that out with your spouse. Spend time together. Go on dates again. Find alone time to remember who you were before kids or bills or any of the challenges that you are facing that may be impacting your relationship.
If you are struggling in your marriage, please know that you are not alone. There is NO such thing as a perfect marriage, no matter how hard people may try to make it seem that way. But the great news is that you can change it. Little changes make a big difference. And sometimes those little changes need to start with you.
What has helped make your marriage successful?