Tammy Helfrich

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Did you miss the boat?

I am on a social media break, but am so excited to have my friend Pilar Arsenec guest posting today. She is a writer, Mom, and book reviewer. She is passionate about books, music, and cooking. I absolutely love Pilar’s heart and encouraging nature. We became fast friends online and loved meeting in person recently. You can find her on Twitter here, or follow her blog here.

I had the pleasure of attending my first Quitter Conference last week. I admit, I didn’t have high expectations. I actually went to meet all of my new Quitter friends.

I had become a cynic with regards to dreams.

I remember years ago when I first met my husband, he started telling me about his dreams. I would scoff at him. I would tell him things like, “Oh come on, give me a break, dreams are for kids,” or “Dreams are not for grown ups.”

Through the years, as I “matured”, my dreams began taking the back seat. I would hear someone talking about their dreams and I would think to myself, “Oh boy, here’s another ‘rainbow in the sky’ person.” I would politely smile as I listened to their banter on ‘dreams’.

Then I met these Quitter dreamers on line.  I started to watch and observe them interact with each other. I loved how they were supportive of each other’s dreams. I liked them because they were all positive and encouraging people.

However, deep down I was still questioning this whole ‘dream’ thing. I even went as far in thinking the Quitter Conference was a bunch of hype. But yet and still, the authenticity of the people I met on line lured me to travel thousands of miles away from my family to find out the truth.

Needless to say, I was a bit nervous and anxious about leaving my family behind. I was barraged by fear prior to going and all of the ‘what if’s’ started to plague me.

What if I die? What if something happens to me or my family? What if my new Quitter friends hate me? What if going is a complete waste of time and money?

I decided to battle and confront those fears and doubts head on by going. I even told myself, yes, you failed, you missed the boat, you missed your chance to pursue your dreams, but perhaps you will learn something from this conference. So I went with an open mind and didn’t have any expectations.

Well, I was completely blown away by the Quitter Conference. It was by far one of the best conferences I ever went to in my life. I was really surprised. It was not at all what I expected. All of my preconceived ideas about dreams went flying out the window. Thanks to Jon Acuff, I became a reborn dreamer.

I realized by attending the Quitter Conference I didn’t miss my boat. It’s not all over for me. I am right where God wants me. As a result, I am no longer dreading my 46th birthday either.

My biggest take away from this conference is that my dreams are not for me, but for others.

I’m grateful I was able to attend the Quitter Conference. Thanks to friends like Tammy Helfrich, Jim and Kristal Woods, Andi Cumbo, Christine Niles and Jamie Kocur who encouraged me to go, I was blessed beyond measure.

Do you struggle with dreams?

Have you stopped dreaming?

Do you think you missed the boat?

Please share your comments below.


  1. Thanks for having me again, Tammy. I hope you are having a wonderful vacation.

  2. Michelle Woodman

    October 8, 2012 at 2:59 pm

    I do struggle still with thinking I’ve missed the boat. But as you (and others in my life) have said, God knew I would be right here, right now, and as such, He had made provision. He still has a plan for me. I just need to choose *today* to step out in it, whatever it may entail.

  3. I am so glad you went! It was awesome to meet you, and I’m so glad it impacted you so.

    On my bad days I feel like I missed the boat, but I remind myself a better day is coming. :)

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