Tammy Helfrich

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Our Father

From Tammy: I am excited to introduce you to my friend, Pilar, who is guest posting today. She is a writer, Mom, and book reviewer. She is passionate about books, music, and cooking. She is incredibly encouraging, and I have loved getting to know her better. You can follow her on Twitter, or check out her blog here. Welcome, Pilar!

I learned the “Our Father” prayer as a child.  I had to memorize it for my catechism classes.

Our Father, Who Art in Heaven, Hallowed be thy name…

You know the rest.

Although I never really thought about the words as I prayed.  I would always get stuck on the Our Father part.

I remember attending a meeting and someone praying.  They gushed as they said, ‘Papa God’. I remember cringing.  I never quite heard anyone refer to God the Father as their Papa.

I left the meeting feeling uncomfortable.

I never once cringed at the word Jesus.  I love Jesus.  I mean, how can you not love Jesus?

He doesn’t come across as distant or intimidating.

So I began to reflect on my past for answers.  I started thinking about my childhood, specifically my relationship with my father.

I love my dad and understand him more today than I ever did.

However, if I’m going to keep it real, he wasn’t around very much.  And when he was around, he wasn’t particularly warm and fuzzy.

On the contrary, he was moody, intimidating and distant.

Suddenly, it clicked.  I realized I was comparing my Heavenly father to my earthly father.  As if they were one and the same.

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So, if I wasn’t close to my own father, what made me think I’m going to be close to my heavenly father?

I mean, imagine trying to be close to someone you’re intimidated by?  Is it possible to be intimate or get to know someone if you are afraid of them?

The answer is obvious.

So how did I resolve this dilemma?  I’m still working on it.

I decided I would commit to reading the bible every day. This way I could change my thinking and get to know Him better.

I’ve also been praying for healing in this area as well.

It’s a process, but I’m grateful to be further along than I was.

What about you?  Do you struggle with your perception of God as Father?


  1. a beautiful post, Pilar… again!

  2. While I am been blessed to have an AMAZING father here, I know so many people who feel as you do, Pilar. It’s one of the reasons I really encourage all of us to use lots of ways of referring to God – Mother, friend, confidant, protector – all those ways that the Bible refers to God apply.

    Prayers that all the healing you need will come quickly, my friend.

  3. Tammy, thank you for the honor of guest posting for you. I am so blessed to call you friend.

  4. I think I do think of him like my dad in some ways – like if I don’t talk to him for awhile, I know he’ll still be there, and be just as loving as always…makes it easy to be laidback about both relationships, which isn’t always a good thing.

  5. The Word will bring about a renewing of your mind. It will allow your mind to understand what your spirit knows. Great post Pilar!

  6. Bless you, Pilar! You are an inspiration! Daring to walk a path courageously, in spite of the difficulty. Excellent post!

  7. Pilar,
    As a Christian counselor, I come across folks every day who experience God the way they do their earthly father. I certainly know its true for me. One of my core beliefs is that I’m going to be “in trouble.” I project this onto God, which causes me to want to hide so as to not get in trouble. I realize this is completely irrational. Emotions are neither right nor wrong. Good or bad they just “are” so I remind myself God isn’t mad at me. He’s waiting with open arms saying “come here and let me love you!”

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