Nobody told me how having kids would change my marriage.
Nobody told me that I would fall in love with these kids so much, that I would unknowingly isolate my husband, and make him feel like he wasn’t needed anymore.
Nobody told me just how HARD it is to raise kids.
Nobody told me that every waking minute would be consumed by taking care of their needs, and putting my own on the backburner.
Nobody told me that I would face serious hardships in my marriage. That my husband would be unhappy. That I would feel completely numb.
Nobody told me that I would ignore my husband for a very long time. And that he would get to a point where he didn’t really care.
Nobody told me that life can be really hard. And that sometimes I would just struggle to make it through the day.
Nobody told me these things before I had kids. Or even after I had kids. Or during those really, really hard early years with multiple children.
So I am telling you.
New Moms, young Moms, Moms with young kids – the road may be difficult.
You may feel exhausted. You may feel extremely lonely in your marriage. Your marriage may be struggling. You may feel like you can’t do it. You may feel like you will never love your husband the way you did before you had kids. You may be annoyed. You may be irritated. You may not have the energy to work on making things better.
Let me tell you something else. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
There are other couples struggling through the same things. Many of them may not be talking about it, but believe me, there are plenty of people in similar situations.
But don’t give up! It does get easier. The kids will get more independent. They won’t need your constant attention. It will get better.
I am in a place now where I am past feeling like this. I chose to make changes in my marriage, and I was forced to make others. But the one thing I know is that being a Mom is tough. There are days when it is hard to go on. But, you can do it.
Your kids need you to be alive, and be present, and help them understand that they matter. And, they need to see that you have your own life as well. That they are not your entire world. They need to see you being the you that God created you to be.
Have you ever felt any of these feelings? What advice would you give Moms currently feeling like this?