I remember being at a point in my marriage when I asked this question.
Is this worth it?
Is it worth working through all of this pain?
Is it worth trying to fix something that doesn’t seem like it can be fixed?
Is it ever going to get any better?
I vividly remember thinking maybe it wasn’t. Maybe it would be easier to just give up and move on. It still pains me to admit that. Deep down in my heart, I knew I didn’t want to give up. And as most of us know, it usually seems easier to give up on something than to work extremely hard at it. But in that heated moment, the option of giving up seems like it would be the best one.
Luckily, I have a good support system. I have people who tell me honestly what I need to hear. What I know is right. I also prayed extremely hard about this. I wanted hope. Thankfully, I got it.
I also had a spouse that was willing to work through things, just like I was. I know this is not always the case for many people. One person often wants to work at it and the other one doesn’t. I know that everyone’s situation is different. And I know that our situation can seem almost minor compared to real challenges that other people are dealing with.
However, I want to tell you that –
IT IS WORTH IT!
Your marriage is worth fighting for.
You will be amazed at the things you can work through – if you try.
Your kids deserve to have you fight for your marriage.
Your spouse wants you to fight for him.
It can get better.
Will it be hard? Most likely.
Will it require a lot of work? Definitely.
Will there be bumps in the road? Probably.
But is it worth it? Yes. Absolutely.
Because at the other end of an almost ruined marriage is one that you never dreamed was possible.